I use a therapeutic model called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples establish new relational patterns built on emotional safety. Couples often get caught in rigid and predictable cycles that lead to disconnection, hurt and loneliness. My goal is to increase the emotional safety in the relationship, as well as, to heal past relationship wounds. As a secure bond begins to be forged, conflict can then become a gateway to deeper intimacy, instead of distress. If you would like more information about EFT, visit www.iceeft.com.
I assist individuals that struggle with unhealthy relationships, anxiety, grief, family of origin issues, and trauma. Helping clients connect with their core emotions as well as the unhealthy patterns they engage in with others, is my expertise. I help clients grieve past hurts, learn new healthy tools for relationships, connect to their feelings and needs, and heal from trauma (see below).
Trauma Therapy: Brainspotting and (EMDR)
“Brainspotting is a powerful, focused treatment method that works by identifying, processing and releasing core neurophysiological sources of emotional/body pain, trauma, dissociation and a variety of other challenging symptoms. Brainspotting is a simultaneous form of diagnosis and treatment, enhanced with Biolateral sound, which is deep, direct, and powerful yet focused and containing.”(brainspotting.com)
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy (EMDR) is used to help clients process painful memories and experiences so that they are not continually triggered in the present. Clients suffering from PTSD, unresolved trauma, depression and anxiety find healing from this therapy. "This treatment approach, which targets past experience, current triggers, and future potential challenges, results in the alleviation of presenting symptoms, a decrease or elimination of distress from the disturbing memory, improved view of the self, relief from bodily disturbance, and resolution of present and future anticipated triggers"(EMDRIA).
Couples that want to prepare for their future marriage benefit greatly from premarital counseling. Working through issues of commitment and compatibility with the one you want to spend the rest of your life with is critical. I use Prepare and Enrich, an assessment program used to help couples find areas of affinity and opportunities for growth in finances, parenting, sex, conflict, traditions, hobbies and friendships.
Enneagram Personality Typing
The Enneagram is an ancient personality tool for helping individuals better understand their motivations and drives (where their attention and energy go to) in relationships, at work, in parenting, and how we relate to the world around us. I use this tool with leadership teams, couples, individuals, in churches and other organizations. The Enneagram not only helps us better understand ourselves and our relationships, it helps build trust on teams. I use the Enneagram in my therapy office as well as at one day long workshops.